He’s madly in love with you – If he hits all these points, you’re in
luck. As this point in life, between your own dating experiences
and those of fictitious characters, you’ve probably learned that
there are guys who just shouldn’t be in relationships. You know
them — the ones don’t care enough to clean the leftover pizza
off the floor when you come over.
But then there are those who are actually worthy of your time,
affection, and — potentially — your love. These are the grown-
ass man that every straight woman strives to find. Luckily, the
answers aren’t as illusive as the men they describe. There are a
few must-have qualities that every grown-ass man posses, and
it’s worth keeping an eye out for them early on in a relationship.
As opposed to dating a man-child, dating a grown-ass man
makes you feel valued, important, and pretty damn special.
Unfortunately, many women settle for less because they don’t
think that grown-ass men exist, and though they may be few and
far between sometimes, they’re certainly out there. Take it from
someone who has been happily married to my own grown-ass
man for over two years now. Real men definitely exist. And they
would be lucky to date someone like you. If you’re trying to
figure out whether that applies to the guy you’re with, here are
some surefire signs that you’re dating a grown-ass man. 1. He’s
Defined The Relationship You don’t have to have a drawn-out
conversation, because you already know where you stand.
When you’re dating a man, he will make his intentions clear,
right from the get-go. If you’re his girlfriend, you’ll know it. No
more guessing games.
2. He’s Self-Motivated A grown man has his sh*t together and
knows how to get it done. He has real life goals and is making
progress towards them. 3. He’s Not Jealous He is secure in your
relationship and doesn’t feel threatened by other friends you
may have or your past relationships.
3. He’s Not Jealous He is secure in your relationship and doesn’t
feel threatened by other friends you may have or your past
relationships.
4. He Says What He Means Relationships can be confusing. A
real man knows this and won’t beat around the bush. When
you’re having a conversation, he says what he means without
any manipulation or disguising.
5. He’s Drama Free Drama shouldn’t even be a word in his
vocabulary. Boys make drama. You don’t need that in your life.
6. He’ll Talk About Anything A real man makes you feel
comfortable enough to talk about anything. There shouldn’t be
anything you feel you need to hide from him, and vise versa.
6. He’ll Talk About Anything A real man makes you feel
comfortable enough to talk about anything. There shouldn’t be
anything you feel you need to hide from him, and vise versa.
7. He Treats You Well (And Enjoys Doing So) Date nights should
be enjoyable for him too, not just out of an obligation to satisfy
you. A grown-ass man will be proud to be with you.
8. He Keeps His Place Clean No more empty beer cans and
remnants of last night’s party. A real man knows how to take
care of his living space and takes pride in its appearance. He
may have a stack of dirty dishes in the sink every so often, but
who doesn’t. 9. He Doesn’t Need To Be Babysat You shouldn’t
feel the need to check in with him or remind him to take care of
himself. He will earn your trust and prove that you can respect
him through his actions, not just his words.
9. He Doesn’t Need To Be Babysat You shouldn’t feel the need to
check in with him or remind him to take care of himself. He will
earn your trust and prove that you can respect him through his
actions, not just his words.
10. He Owns His Mistakes No matter the age, men mess up. The
difference is a grown-ass man apologizes when he’s messed up
and actually change his behavior after the fact.
11. He Knows Your Value He would never treat you less-than or
like you don’t mean the world to him. by Olivia Youngs
