Relationship tips for intimacy

 

Some couples believe falling in love is a passport to a relationship that will last a lifetime. The relationship tips we learn from TV and romance novels have made us believe that great relationships and lasting love happen effortlessly, yet the truth is that relationships take plenty of work.

Sometimes couples know something is off, something is seriously wrong, but they put off dealing with it until the problem becomes too big to ignore.

Take my friends, Sam and Abigail as an example. The beginning their relationship was full intimacy, laughs, touching, sharing, eye contact, lust and desire. Then their baby came and everything changed, including their sex life, especially their sex life.

Abigail says she’s just less interested in sex but desires intimacy. Sam is frustrated that Abigail doesn’t seem as interested in sex. Their biggest task now is to rebuild their sexual connection by taking little steps — touching, kissing, intimacy dates, and more dates — to reignite their sex life. Often couples fail to realize how little changes in how they interact can make big improvements in their relationships. Consider these few tips to keep your relationship healthy:

Don’t delay romance. People often postpone romantic overtures or sexy activities for special occasions such as date night or vacation. However, you shouldn’t postpone romance because you’re waiting for the “right” time. By making ‘everyday’ occasions special (such as wearing your “special” lingerie to bed or making out with your partner before your partner leaves for work), you will discover so much more pleasure and joy in your day-to-day life.
Don’t wait for your partner to fix your relationship. People often take a back seat in their relationships because they believe their partner should take the lead in fixing the relationship. “Why should I do all the work?” Although it is true that relationships are a two-way street, it’s damaging to be too comfortable simply because you want your partner to be romantic. If you want more romance, then you should be more romantic. Want more sex? Then, initiate sex more often. Your partner will see and enjoy your increased interest, and he will likely respond in turn.
Ask for what you want. You also need to be more upfront when telling your partner what you want. Women, in particular, are guilty of, not speaking up, as we assume our partners should be know what we want
Think small picture. When people want to improve their relationships, they tend only to look at the big picture, and they become overwhelmed. Instead, think small picture, such as: What can I do today to improve my relationship? What is one thing I can do today to show my partner how much I love him?
Daily appreciations. Couples tend to share negative feedback with one another more easily, but they don’t spend as much effort sharing positive feedback. Fix this quickly by giving your partner three daily appreciations.